Healthy Adult Mode

Healthy Adult Mode

This mode is the part of you that thinks and behaves in a healthy and compassionate way towards yourself. The healthy adult (HA) is kind, rationale and responsible and balances emotion with reason when making decisions. This mode cares for the VC mode and wants to act in the best interest of the VC to help get core needs met and helps re-parent the VC. People differ greatly in the degree to which they have a healthy adult mode. Some people require a lot of help and coaching from their therapist to be able to build up the healthy adult mode. One of the key goals of therapy is to strengthen this mode so that it can start being the dominant mode in a person’s life, making healthy decisions at work, in relationships and in family life. The role of the therapist is to model a healthy adult mode for the client; to teach the client how to re-parent wounded parts of themselves; and to enable corrective emotional experiences and new information to the client’s evolving HA. It is important to try and define and activate the HA part of yourself as early as possible in therapy. It is possible to have a strong HA mode while also having other strong dysfunctional modes and strong VC modes. This is perfectly normal because ‘personality’ or ‘self’, is not one unified dimension – as discussed in detail above. A person can often be in HA mode at work and some relationships (for example), but find it difficult to stay in that mode in some interpersonal situations when they are highly triggered.

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